Why Family Dinner Time is My Favorite Time of a Day

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I grew up in a large family, more exactly, a large extended family. We lived on a tight budget, so we could not afford any fancy meals, let alone eating out in a restaurant. Our dinners were always very simple and plain, but I enjoyed every minute of the family dinner time. During that time, grandma usually shared her tips on how to get the best bargain at the farmers market; aunt Ling, who was a nurse, would make sure everyone understand how to protect ourselves as flu season approached; cousin Yu always told us new jokes he learned from his classmates. It still feels like yesterday, vivid in my mind.

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Years later, I started my own family with Roy in the U.S. Then we had our two lovely children, Andrew and Allison, who are 12 and 10 years old now, respectively. With more tasks and projects added to our to-do list, we have to cross out quite a few family activities that I love, such as weekend movie night. One thing that I insist on being set as a high priority is family dinner.

We sit at our table and eat, and each person talks about his/her day. It is often during the dinner conversation that I notice the ever-changing nuances of my children. When Andrew suddenly refused to talk about his best friend, whose name was a high-frequency word in his usual conversation, I knew some conflicts between the two may be going on. I should pay more attention to Andrew’s emotional changes and see whether private conversation or help is needed. When Allison proudly talked about her performance in school holiday singing assembly, I saw her passion in singing and started thinking about having a duet with my little diva in our family holiday party.

It is also an excellent time to talk to kids about what our jobs are like. Instead of envying the fact that “Daddy and mommy can play on a computer the whole day (we wish!),” they learn about responsibilities, teamwork, and the value of hard work. While we share with them what we find interesting about our work, occasionally we also talk about the stress we’ve experienced to let them know that life isn’t as easy as we imagined. My kids sometimes provide their comments and suggestions. One day, my husband mentioned the disagreement that he had with a colleague about a job-related issue. Andrew stated, “I think you should talk more about this with your colleague. Maybe he is right. That’s why you need more communication.” Wow. I was so glad that when we intended to teach our children, we were also learning something from them.

Dinner time is our family time! I cannot emphasize enough how important it is. According to a study conducted at Columbia University, compared with teens who have infrequent family dinners (fewer than three per week), children who have dinner with their parents five or more days a week feel closer with their parents, show better academic performance, and have a lower risk of substance abuse. As the study report states, “Parental knowledge about what’s going on in a child’s life is important in raising healthy, drug-free kids.”

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Having family dinners means I have to devote more time to grocery shopping and cooking, in addition to my busy daily work and the time required for kids’ extracurricular activities, but it’s definitely worth it. Whether it is because of my clinging to my childhood memories or my raising awareness of health benefits of family eating together, I believe in the power of family dinners.

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7 comments

  1. This is great advice. My wife and I had made an agreement as soon as we moved into our new house that we would eat at the dinner table as a family every night. This was about 4 years ago when we our only child was 1 year old. Now that child is 5, we have a 2 year old, and another on the way and we’ve held up to this agreement. Every once and awhile this doesn’t happen but out of a month, there’s probably one or two nights we don’t eat at the table as a family for dinner. I think it is a good idea because we all need to eat, and eating doesn’t take away all of our attention like other group activities so we have time to discuss family matters and get to know how everyone is doing. Without this time I don’t think I’d be able to spend any other quality time with my family as a whole due to my work schedule.

    1. That sounds wonderful! Hope you enjoy the family dinner time, just as I do. 🙂

  2. “Wow. I was so glad that while we intended to teach our children, we were also learning something from them.”
    So true! I nannied for many years and have a very large extended family – I’m always so amazed how much I learn from children. My sister put it best (IMO): “Remember that in most cases, the child is seeing what you consider normal for the FIRST TIME. So when they’re excited, show encouragement. When they look at it a different way, try to look at it that way, too.”

  3. It makes me feel quite nostalgic as I have not had dinner with my family for 3.5 years (I live on my own in another country, and my parents and I are 12 hours flight apart), and I miss the dinner conversation with them. I think it is also the beauty of it that when I see my parents, I will cherish the dinner time with them more. And you are right about it is not what kind of food we eat, but the communication, getting to know each other and simply enjoy the meal with the people you love is the key.

    1. Nice comments, Julie. Good to learn about your story. Hope you will see your parents soon and have some nice family dinner with them! Best wishes to you!

  4. I agree – now more than ever, with people living in isolation in different corners of the same house, the family meal, at a proper table, with proper rituals, without TV or any other distraction, is a very important unifying experience.

    1. Great point! Thanks for reading.

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